Topic of discussion? GET YOUR OWN LIFE!
I am so sick of seeing women literally losing themselves in relationships. Seriously. Do you all of a sudden forget your friends, family members, interests and hobbies after you and your man have been together for more than a year? Why? Because you both have so much in common, right? Lies.
While most relationships are formed out of similar interests, the more intriguing part is being with someone ELSE. Not yourself. Who wants to date a male/female version of themselves? Pretty boring if you ask me. Too predictable, mundane, repetitious. Always knowing what your partner is thinking must be SUPER fun. Yeah. Super duper.
I've conducted a scientific study (which means I asked 10 men on Twitter) and men prefer a woman that did her own thing. And I PROMISE you I'm not lying. I asked the question: "Would you prefer a woman that wanted to spend all of her time with you or be with a woman that did her own thing from time to time?"
"definitely, one who does her own thing from time to time, but not so much where she thinks she so Independent that she doesn't need a man" - @TheKelsiem
"Did her own thing from time to time, niggas need their space dread" - @SB_Dread
"Did her own thing from time to time. Repetition of anything can become boring. I dont care how much people like to say "do what you love.." doing what you love can also get tedious. Thats why they have weekends, sabbaticals , vacations…so in that same regard…i think some time apart is necessary..and also it helps bring back something fresh to the relationships….cant share new experiences and stories if you're never really apart right?" - @Meck0
"I have a frat, Super Team, and a clothing line I'm planning. Imma need my gf to know she gotta have her own live and link me in between." - @2CUTTAZ
"... as long as u at least keep me in the loophole like "Hey me n so n so hanging out i ga talk to you later" i'm good" - @TheTanMamba
"Did her own thing time to time...I'm a person who is independent so I like my own space and that thing seems clingy u know that" - @GritzBrownz
"Does her own thing ... She just cant get ridiculous with it.." - @JayComplex
"Option B. If I'm dating someone, I wanna spend a load of time with em, but I want my space too" - @IllestKevAlive
This is what men think! And I don't care HOW you try to defend it, if you spend 90% of your free time with your man (and are unmarried .. but then again, even if you are), you, my dear, need a LIFE. I think women believe that keeping a man "hot" will ensure that he has less time for other women. But HONEY CHILD, can I TELL you how a man (or woman for that matter) will FIND time to cheat? Smothering won't make him want you more. It'll actually make him want you less.
Ever had a new plant and was so excited you over-watered it? What happened to it after a few days? It died, no? See those little holes at the bottom of the plant pot? Yeahhhh ... that's what your man needs. Breathing room. Space. Filter time. And if his filter time consists of hanging out with his friends, playing COD, some fantasy basketball mess or lounging off scratching his balls ... LET HIM DO IT! Geepers. Go call up your friends (if you have any left), make a spa appointment, get your nails done, hair done ... something! But you MUST have something you wanna do without him.
I thought this was common knowledge but apparently, it ain't. :( So I'm just here to shed some light on not so obvious reasons we stay losin'! I know it's pretty touché but absence really does makes the heart grow fonder ... and his ... well .. you know ... stuff ... want your stuff more! LOL :)
Next Week's Topic: Independent Woman: A Blessing And A Curse