Such a gentleman. He’s smart and funny; very easy on the eyes. You can talk for hours on end about everything and nothing at all. You share the same goals, the same morals and beliefs. And to put the icing on top of this perfect cake; the sex is mindblowing. There’s just ONE problem. He. Is. Not. Yours.
How the hell does this happen?! How does someone so perfect for you belong to someone else? How does someone else get to open your Christmas gift and play with it before you?! What kind of sick, twisted, demented person does something like that? His girlfriend, maybe? Or perhaps, his … wife? Yeah, boo. He is not yours. And as hard as it may be, you’re gonna have to let him go.
We allow our hearts to trick us into staying in situations like this.We know that we should leave. We know he belongs to someone else. We know we won’t win. We know for a damn fact that karma is real and has no mercy. Yet, we stay.
Could it be the emotional connection? The physical? Spiritual? Whatever it is, we need to look past that and see the bigger picture. At the end of the day, you’re investing a hell of a lot of time into somebody that is not yours. It’s almost like investing all of your life’s savings into someone else’s bank account. What sense does that make? Depleting yourself and replenishing someone else?
It’s easy to be on the outside and judge:
“Why doesn’t she just leave him alone?”
“Why is she such a homewrecker?”
“She should be ashamed; she knows better”
But, who are YOU to judge? It’s easy to stand on the outside and judge, but being in the situation gives you a whole new perspective.
While we may not be able to control who we’re attracted to, we CAN control how we go about dealing with these feelings. Some just take longer to gain control of these feelings than others which CAN be disastrous. Imagine being “committed” to a man that has a girlfriend, fiancee or wife for about 2 years. Can you imagine the emotional bond they may both have together? And while some men are incredibly scummy and may be filling your head with lies about his significant other, the choice is YOURS to stay or to leave.
I know it feels right. The sparks fly. The sex is great. How could this POSSIBLY be wrong? How could you POSSIBLY be punished for being with your soulmate? How? Easily. He, no matter how perfect, is not yours. And while you may feed yourself stories like:
“Maybe I give him what his woman can’t.”
“We just have bad timing. We’re SUPPOSED to be together.”
“His woman cheats on him; he deserves better.”
When it’s all said and done …. she is his woman and you are not.
But there really is no need to cry over spilled milk. Get the mop and clean it up. Let it dry. Start over. You CAN find someone as perfect as your unattainable man. Someone that is ALWAYS available to you. Not just between the hours of midnight and 6am, excluding his birthday and holidays. You can have this perfect man all to yourself without going to bed feeling guilty or miserable. You can have your OWN!
And think about the other woman. Probably so in love with her man. Totally oblivious to what he’s doing behind her back. As a WOMAN, how do you feel? You probably already know what it’s like to have your heart broken, would you really be okay with putting another woman through that? And do you really want to be nothing but a jump off? A thrill? A fleeting memory? You’re worth much more than that. You really are.
So let him GO. As hard as it may be. If you truly feel it’s meant to be … I PROMISE it WILL be. But try not to hold your breath in the meantime. Those kinds of stories are reserved for the fairytales. For now, work on harboring good, clean karma, being a better you and allowing the man of your dreams to sweep you off your feet. You deserve it.